Mental health

Losing is Winning: Dr. den Boer’s Mental Coaching Secrets!

Losing to win, the idea of failing to win may seem counterintuitive, even contradictory. However, it is a particularly relevant concept in health and fitness. It is not uncommon for individuals attempting to make significant changes to their lifestyle to fixate on all the things they need to give up to achieve their goals. But what if this perspective was reframed, and instead of focusing on what we are losing, we looked at it as what we are gaining? Losing weight may mean gaining more energy and self-confidence, and cutting out junk food may lead to discovering healthier, tastier alternatives. And saying no to smoking or alcohol could result in a longer, more fulfilling life. It’s all about perspective.

How can you lose your excuse? 

The roadblock between success and failure is our excuses. The excuses we use to stop us from believing in ourselves and our ability to succeed. However, it can be overwhelming. Don’t get me wrong, losing some of these things would surely help you. But there are two far more powerful things to fail to find long-term success. Today, we’re going to talk about the first one.

“I don’t have time.”

“I’m too tired.”

“I’m too old.”

“I’m not strong enough.”

“I can’t do it.”

So, to find success, you must first lose your excuses. Realize that these excuses are nothing more than lies that you’ve been telling yourself. It’s time to start believing in yourself and believing in your capabilities. It’s time to start seeing yourself as solid and capable of anything. It’s time to take action and take back control of your life.

How excuses can ruin us? 

Excuses are chains that hold us back. At first, these excuses may seem harmless. A simple “I’m too tired” or “I don’t have time” may seem like a legitimate reason to avoid a task. But when excuses become a pattern, they prevent us from achieving our true potential. However, we convince ourselves that we are not capable of success or that we don’t have what it takes to achieve our goals. Similarly, we build a mental barrier that restricts us from exploring new opportunities or trying new things. 

As a result, we settle for mediocrity, accepting the limitations that our excuses have created. Subsequently, we need to remember that every time we make an excuse. Also, we give up control of our lives to an opposing force, limiting our growth and progress. So, we need to be aware of the excuses we make and break free from their chains before they ruin us completely. It is only by taking responsibility for our actions that and push ourselves beyond our limits. And embracing challenges to unleash our full potential and become the best versions of ourselves.

Why are our excuses problematic? 

In reality, excuses are very problematic. It is because they fuel attitudes, and as a result, our attitudes shape our belief system. However, most reasons have negative connotations, from self- doubts to fear. It leads to a significant barrier to a successful life. That is why adopting a growth mindset and refusing to let excuses limit our actions is essential. As the famous quote goes, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.” The most successful people I’ve ever coached didn’t allow excuses to limit action. Sure, we faced obstacles, fell short, and failed occasionally. Overcoming these is what makes success feel so good. So let’s work together to overcome the barriers and achieve our most significant potential.

Exercise that helps you to lose your excuses

To help yourself to lose your excuses, try out mental cardio exercises. This unique exercise allows you to mitigate your reasons and achieve success. You can practice this exercise by asking the following questions from yourself: 

  1.  What is something you would like to do differently?
  2. How are the excuses creating roadblocks & preventing you from finding success?
  3. In what way would you like to accomplish your goals?
  4. How have they impacted your attitudes and belief systems?
  5.  What can you tell yourself moving forward?

After asking yourself some reflective questions, you can identify the excuses holding you back from achieving your goals. In addition, you can tell yourself that you can achieve your goals and have what it takes to succeed. However, this exercise is designed to train your mind to be stronger, just like physical activity prepares your body to be stronger. So, if you want to lose your excuses and achieve your goals, try the mental cardio exercise today.

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